As you start the surrogacy process, you’re probably filled with emotions. There’s the difficult times of coming to terms with not being able to carry a baby on your own, the excitement that you might be able to complete your family with the help of a gestational surrogate, and there’s also the natural concerns that your worries may come true. All of this is normal, and sometimes the emotions can feel overwhelming. However, staying calm and relaxed makes the surrogacy process smoother and can help it be more successful. We’ve gathered a few mantras you can repeat to yourself when you’re struggling.
1. Laughter Lightens My Soul
This famous quotation is true in life and throughout the surrogacy process. Laughter makes you feel better, reduces your stress, and makes the people around you happier and more relaxed. Find ways to tickle your funny bone regularly, whether that’s chatting with friends, watching a comedy, looking at memes online, or whatever makes you laugh.
2. This, Too, Shall Pass
Nothing is forever. Even if times are challenging as you wait for news or struggle with troublesome information, it’s not the end of your story or journey. As long as you’re here living, new chapters will be added to your life.
3. I am Better for the Experiences I Have Had
You don’t need to be religious to appreciate Sister Mary Brigh Cassidy’s words.
“I believe in God’s master plan in lives. He moves people in and out of others’ lives, and each leaves his mark on the other. You will find you are made up of bits and pieces of all who ever touched your life and you are more because of it, and you would be less if they had not touched you.”
Every person who has touched your life has helped make you who you are. Even those who have left your life far too early have contributed to who you are today. These experiences have made you better and you have triumphed over adversity.
4. My Attitude will Transfer My Power to Others
Your attitude is literally contagious. It’s difficult not to be nervous or anxious when someone else is preparing to carry your baby, but positivity matters, and can impact fertility. Muster up your strength, courage, and positive energy and focus it on your gestational surrogate. She may never know how you feel, but doing this one little thing can have a huge impact on your relationship with the gestational surrogate and how the pregnancy progresses.
Are you considering starting the surrogacy process? Surrogate Parenting Services (SPS) would love to help you complete your family and be a part of the next chapter in your life. We’re a comprehensive surrogacy agency that is dedicated to supporting intended parents and gestational surrogates through every step- from the initial matching phase through delivery. For more information on our services or to begin the process, please contact us today.