Even though you’re excited to become a surrogate, announcing your decision to the world can be nerve-wracking. Never before has the phrase “Keep calm and carry on,” ever been more true. Take a deep breath, and follow these tips to make your announcement easier.
- Discuss Your Intentions to Become a Surrogate Before You Commit
Pregnancy is exhilarating though it can be exhausting as well. You’ll need to have those closest to you on board with your decision to become a surrogate before you commit. This way, you’ll have all the expected questions out of the way, and you can go forward without surprising anyone. Obviously, it’s a good idea to speak candidly with your immediate family ahead of time, but you may also wish to mention it to those in your social circle or employers that you’re considering surrogacy.
- Establish a Support Network
It’s a good idea to “rally the troops,” so to speak, before you make a major announcement. Talk one-on-one to those closest to you, so they can act as your support network. It’s quite likely that your friends and family will be fielding questions when you make the big announcement, and it’s a good idea to set expectations in advance about what you’re comfortable with them saying and what you’d rather keep private.
- Be Honest and Sincere
Sadly, not everyone is going to support your decision, but much of this stems from misinformation and misunderstandings about the process. When you discuss your decision to become a surrogate, be truthful, but tailor the information to your audience. For instance, your own children will want to know and understand why the baby won’t be coming home with you after, and it’s a good idea to explain the situation honestly while providing information that’s suitable for their ages. Bear in mind that it takes some people a while to warm up to the idea, and others, especially young children, may need constant affirmation.
- Expect a Lot of Questions
Nothing spurs questions quicker than a pregnancy, and it becomes even more intense when it’s a surrogacy. Now strangers on the sidewalk won’t just ask to touch your baby bump, they’ll be quizzing you about your emotions and what the intended parents are like. Be aware that you’ll probably get a lot of questions, and perhaps even some bizarre ones, but remember that they usually come from misinformation or misunderstandings. In the eyes of your peers, you will immediately become a surrogate expert. Take some time to consider how you’ll respond in advance.
- Have Fun with It
You’re doing an amazing thing, and you should be proud of your decision. Tell people the oven is yours, but the bun is not, or whatever zany phrases pop into your head. Enjoy the moment, because this time will be over before you know it.
Even though not everyone you talk to will understand your motivations, that’s ok. Keep your support group close and be proud of yourself. The decision to become a surrogate is huge, and you’re giving a loving couple an amazing gift.