The decision to start the surrogacy process isn’t always an easy one. Intended parents often weigh the pros and cons for quite some time to make sure they’re doing the best thing for their families, and it’s a good thing that they do. If you’re in this position, wondering if now is the right time to start the surrogacy process, consider these four reasons to decide if you’re ready and whether surrogacy is right for you.
1. Your “Biological Clock” is Ticking and the Stork Hasn’t Arrived
Intended parents start the surrogacy process for a lot of different reasons, but it always comes down to having the desire to start a family and lots of waiting. Many moms-to-be go through several rounds of IVF or suffer miscarriages before they decide to begin the surrogacy journey. Other intended parents simply struggle with infertility or can’t have a baby for medical reasons. In any case, if you’d like to be able to become a parent while you’re still young enough to enjoy it, but the stork hasn’t brought you a delivery yet, now might be the best time to start.
2. You’re Emotionally Ready
Most intended parents have had an emotional journey that brings them to the decision. It’s painful for many to not be able to carry a child, and switching gears does not happen overnight. If you’ve had time to process and settle your emotions about not carrying your own child, you’re ready to start.
3. You’re Prepared to Welcome a Baby into Your Home
It probably goes without saying, but babies will turn everything upside down. You’ll have sleepless nights where you pace the floor with the wee one for hours. You’ll have Cheerios tossed about your dining room and the family dog will probably be painted with baby food at some point in time or another. Most intended parents long for this. They crave it like nothing else. If you can picture yourself rocking the little one at three in the morning, soaking up the scent of baby powder, and appreciating those quiet moments, you are ready.
4. You’ve Found a Reputable Agency to Start the Surrogacy Process With
The surrogacy process is complex and it helps to have an expert on your side. A reputable agency will oversee the process for you, help you find just the right gestational surrogate, and make sure the journey is as smooth as possible. Not every agency does all this. Some will simply match you with someone and hope it works out, without taking into consideration whether you have similar values and that the gestational surrogate will behave much the same way that you would during a pregnancy. Finding the right match is paramount and it’s only the beginning. There are a lot of steps that need to be taken, including filing legal documents, establishing a contract that everyone is comfortable with, and managing medical needs. The right agency will make sure everything happens when it should.
At SPS, this is how we operate. Our surrogacy process has helped to complete hundreds of families and we’d be honored to be part of your journey. For more information or to take your first steps on the path to becoming a parent with the help of a carefully-vetted gestational surrogate, please contact us today.